The Hard Way
I love determination. I'm the queen of it. I'm the queen of saying to myself I can do this alone. And I do on a regular basis. I make up my mind to do something and if I don't have the expertise I will ask for help from someone who knows more than I do and I research, but if they don't show interest in helping me I move on from thinking I'm going to get help and figure out a plan to do it myself.
I have been this way my entire life. Determined. Stubborn. Head strong. Strong {in general}. Hard working. And I always have a plan. Just tell me I can't do something and I will prove to you just how very capable I am of doing it. I can do anything I want to if I put my mind to it. I believe God made us this way.
But I don't pretend that I never needed help. And I certainly wouldn't have the attitude that help just comes whenever you need it. I know some people want to say that God will always come to your rescue, I believe He will make a way, but many times after you've rejected his help he'll let you do it on your own the hard way. And that way really sucks.
There's a reason they call it the hard way because it isn't in any way shape or form easy. It will challenge you, exhaust you, bring you to the brink of breaking {or break you altogether} on your knees. Not all challenges in life are this hard, but when you have a hard head and decide to do everything your way without listening to good solid advice from others or at least taking it into consideration...you're asking for the hard way.
I get sad when I hear people asking for the hard way. I've done it. I thought it was the easy way and it certainly is easy to get onto the hard path, it's just hard to get off of it once you're on it.
In life you never get to turn around, you can only go forward so trying to get out of it is trudging straight through it. Unless you're blessed enough to get grace and somebody helps pull you out. But remember it's harder to ask for help after you've told everyone you know you don't need it.
And being told I told you so really, really sucks. But what sucks worse is finding out that life always happens no matter how determined you are and how many plans, or back up plans you have. Life happens and it usually happens when you aren't expecting it and sometimes it pours down on you like a shower of brimstone; a domino effect of mishaps, tragedies, or hard lessons. Don't be so foolish to think that life won't find you where you're going and you don't need others. And definitely don't think you're in some way smarter than the rest and you won't make those same mistakes we made because we're the foolish ones.
I was young once and super intelligent and hard working and I made all the right choices, it only takes one bad choice. It only takes one moment of weakness, one single second of double glancing at another option. You probably won't make my mistake, but you will make your own. And that's OK, but don't go into life believing you're impervious to humanity.
Maybe you'll meet kind strangers. I hope so. Maybe your family and friends will come to the rescue. I hope so. Maybe you will dig your way out by the grit of your teeth and the last remnants of your finger nails. I know you will at some point. This is life and it's everyone's right of passage to adulthood. You can't be a true adult without having rolled through the mud and learned to get back up, dust yourself off and try again.
Which is why most adults would prefer to revert back to childhood...haha.
Personally, I love a challenge, I always will. Just don't ever spit in anyone's face when they offer you advice {haha, I more than likely did when I was younger}, or bite anyone's hand when they come to feed you. And remember...You'll understand this all when you're older.
I have been this way my entire life. Determined. Stubborn. Head strong. Strong {in general}. Hard working. And I always have a plan. Just tell me I can't do something and I will prove to you just how very capable I am of doing it. I can do anything I want to if I put my mind to it. I believe God made us this way.
But I don't pretend that I never needed help. And I certainly wouldn't have the attitude that help just comes whenever you need it. I know some people want to say that God will always come to your rescue, I believe He will make a way, but many times after you've rejected his help he'll let you do it on your own the hard way. And that way really sucks.
There's a reason they call it the hard way because it isn't in any way shape or form easy. It will challenge you, exhaust you, bring you to the brink of breaking {or break you altogether} on your knees. Not all challenges in life are this hard, but when you have a hard head and decide to do everything your way without listening to good solid advice from others or at least taking it into consideration...you're asking for the hard way.
I get sad when I hear people asking for the hard way. I've done it. I thought it was the easy way and it certainly is easy to get onto the hard path, it's just hard to get off of it once you're on it.
In life you never get to turn around, you can only go forward so trying to get out of it is trudging straight through it. Unless you're blessed enough to get grace and somebody helps pull you out. But remember it's harder to ask for help after you've told everyone you know you don't need it.
And being told I told you so really, really sucks. But what sucks worse is finding out that life always happens no matter how determined you are and how many plans, or back up plans you have. Life happens and it usually happens when you aren't expecting it and sometimes it pours down on you like a shower of brimstone; a domino effect of mishaps, tragedies, or hard lessons. Don't be so foolish to think that life won't find you where you're going and you don't need others. And definitely don't think you're in some way smarter than the rest and you won't make those same mistakes we made because we're the foolish ones.
I was young once and super intelligent and hard working and I made all the right choices, it only takes one bad choice. It only takes one moment of weakness, one single second of double glancing at another option. You probably won't make my mistake, but you will make your own. And that's OK, but don't go into life believing you're impervious to humanity.
Maybe you'll meet kind strangers. I hope so. Maybe your family and friends will come to the rescue. I hope so. Maybe you will dig your way out by the grit of your teeth and the last remnants of your finger nails. I know you will at some point. This is life and it's everyone's right of passage to adulthood. You can't be a true adult without having rolled through the mud and learned to get back up, dust yourself off and try again.
Which is why most adults would prefer to revert back to childhood...haha.
Personally, I love a challenge, I always will. Just don't ever spit in anyone's face when they offer you advice {haha, I more than likely did when I was younger}, or bite anyone's hand when they come to feed you. And remember...You'll understand this all when you're older.
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